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Author Topic: Should i divorce my wife?  (Read 288 times)

nsubugajohn

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Should i divorce my wife?
« on: January 21, 2013, 05:43:45 PM »

A friend of mine married a lady but on their first night (Honey moon), The man realised that her fiancee had a tatoo with a picture of her X-boyfriend. The lady is not willing to scrub off the tatoo because of fear of retaining a scar on her body. What advise can you give to this worried man? Should he divorce the wife?
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Reginah

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #1 on: January 21, 2013, 05:48:53 PM »

No it was by mistake that she had that tatoo on. If the man really loves the lady he shouldnt complain.
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jo

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #2 on: January 21, 2013, 05:56:36 PM »

That was in her past. He should just stay with his wife, there is no turning back.
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nsodo

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #3 on: January 22, 2013, 12:02:10 PM »

I think that friend of yours should mind his business and love the person not the tattoo  she has and if the person is history, he must stop resurrecting that person in her minds by making her totally forget about him. 
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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #4 on: January 22, 2013, 02:49:30 PM »

 Advise them to start a new life and forget the past
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jonie

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #5 on: January 22, 2013, 04:16:06 PM »

Do not let such things destroy/spoil your relationship with your wife

Good communication is important for any relationship to move on well.
I do think that it can take you a minute to think with her on how the tattoo can be removed
or else for her to explain to you how it came about.
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Uganda Man

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #6 on: January 22, 2013, 08:27:39 PM »

I cant believe the advice you guys are giving to nsubugajohn. First of all, you have to realise that even though the boy friend was in the past, his tattoo is in the present. I cant love a woman when every time am in action with her, i will look at the tattoo of the the former boyfriend. That will be madness from my side. If the woman really loves me, she should be willing to put away her past by scabbing the tattoo off no matter the effects.

You have to know, that even though you love someone, you will feel bad even at the mention of their past lovers. It will get worse when a person has the tattoo.
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Mahaja Moses

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #7 on: January 23, 2013, 08:28:33 AM »

Really the tattoo should go off because if i do something wrong she will have to bring back the memories of the x and say i am not good enough for her.
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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #8 on: January 23, 2013, 02:47:31 PM »

If you make it such a big deal, it will become a big deal with her so don't. Talk to her, try to find a way of harmonizing the situation because let us be honest, seeing your woman's or man's ex anywhere near your wife/husband is a big blow. tell her you are uncomfortable with it, be there if she accepts to get it off and be supportive. do not command her, talk to her like a human being.
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Mary

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #9 on: January 28, 2013, 05:15:03 PM »

No , the  Bible is against  it  seriously.
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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #10 on: January 29, 2013, 05:37:34 PM »

They say a bird in the hand is worthy many in the bush please stick to her because she might be better than the one you may get.
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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #11 on: January 29, 2013, 05:45:48 PM »

By the time you decide to marry someone it means that you are to be with them no matter what. How can a mere tatoo be a big concern in his marriage. Let him just pretend that it is not there.
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Mary

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #12 on: February 19, 2013, 03:13:34 PM »

No,  marriage says  , 'till death should you part'  just look for any  possible means  for resolving  your  wrangles if any  or  complications of any  kind  and  go on the hard way .
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Mary

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Re: Should i divorce my wife?
« Reply #13 on: March 11, 2013, 05:39:28 PM »

Don't  bother , try all possible means  to remain together  for   the creators image and your own respect on this planet.
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