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sue

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Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« on: July 17, 2012, 06:07:39 PM »

My boy friend and I love each other dearly. We want to be together but as Christian, we want to first get married in church. The problem we have is that his father doesn’t want him to marry before we get at least one child. He can’t accept me as his daughter in law before I give him a grand child. Help please. Should we first have a child or we do it as we want and forget about his blessings?
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OCHODIO MOSES

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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #1 on: July 19, 2012, 03:24:12 PM »
seat down with your boy friend and talk to your father in law since he might be psychologically upset. Talk to him about your first priorities and remind him of what the Bible says about fornication. To me, i think your father-in law thinks that, you may not be in position to give birth( barren). if he persists, then take your stand putting into consideration that you want a blessed family not a curse family.
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #2 on: July 19, 2012, 03:36:40 PM »
The father in-law is right. No wasting money without a child. Giving birth to child is an assurance that you love the guy and you are ready to be with him in whatever circumstances. Give birth before they wed you
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Mary

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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #3 on: July 19, 2012, 05:05:12 PM »
That;s so disgusting  to hear, how can happen?
It's you and your partner to decide because the marriage is only for the two people before you get children . These days they don't choose partners for people. He was very wrong unless you are all believers and there is  a sounding  reason  brought about by you.
Advise;  Discuss with him.
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sue

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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #4 on: July 19, 2012, 05:34:41 PM »
My man  respects his father so much and he can not do anything without his approval. i have tried talking to him but he thinks we should it the way his father wants it.
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #5 on: July 19, 2012, 05:55:15 PM »
 Tell yo bf to explain to his father that u will be fornicating ,  first get married in church en yo marriage will be blessed
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #6 on: July 20, 2012, 03:47:40 PM »
Quote from: sue on July 19, 2012, 05:34:41 PM
My man  respects his father so much and he can not do anything without his approval. i have tried talking to him but he thinks we should it the way his father wants it.

Then let him follow and respect what his father says if you people you want to have a blessed marriage. Remember a child should not disrespect the parent even if the parent is wrong
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #7 on: July 26, 2012, 02:40:27 PM »
if your mother gives u an approval please go ahead and marry
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #8 on: August 13, 2012, 01:12:58 PM »
Please sue do what is right and to me i think blessings from God are better than your father in laws blessings.
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #9 on: November 09, 2012, 04:39:06 PM »
This should   involve two people  for  the fist agreement  and other come in after  resolutions.
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #10 on: May 09, 2013, 02:51:32 PM »
Sounds so  strange  because  he is supposed to be among the  last  resort  people to be contacted  about  the set wedding.  He comes in  after the conclusions made  by  the couple but that's  my own thinking.
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #11 on: May 09, 2013, 03:16:48 PM »
Please do not let any other person get into your relationship because your not going to stay with him and if you know it is wrong before God why disrespect God and respect human beings. Sue what you Know is right.
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Re: Father in-law stopping our wedding.
« Reply #12 on: May 10, 2013, 04:15:39 PM »
Giving birth is just evidence that you can bear children so do what the mzee wants and all is well with you
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